Live and Love
Sometimes if you want your partner/friend/family member to treat you with kindness, then being kind to your partner/friend/family member first will invite kindness in return. See if it works. It might take a few acts of kindness before your partner/friend/family member softens and things change, but making the decision to be kind can actually change the direction of your relationship(s).
The smallest act of kindness is worth more than the greatest intention.
Deep breaths and remember it feels great the moment you tell that person off but you usually feel like crap about yourself after. Be kind, patient and tolerant and do not let people who are a vexation to the soul make you as sick and angry inside as they are. Do not allow resentment to poison you, love them from a far if you must but love them nonetheless.
do your little bit of good where you are ~ Bishop Desmond Tutu
Life is better when you're laughing.