... not letting them maintain and develop their own identity (instead of just a mirror of mommy's feelings). Kids know what's up whether or not they're brave enough to speak up. When little kids arent allowed to be kids and instead become gossip buddies for adults, the kids often mirror the perspectives of whoever they are with, trying to make them happy at the time. This is a huge problem for kids of divorce who have a selfish, immature parent.
Wrap up twenty-five children's books and put them under the tree with a special blanket next to them. Before bed each evening, your kids choose one book to open and read together until Christmas. Love this idea!