I'm a fiercely independent soul, believing strongly in the importance of being whole on your own. But still, I am a hopeless romantic, infatuated with mad, passionate love, and the idea of two souls merging as one. These sides often battle, and they fight hard. And they both refuse to back down.
Being a victim is not who I am. When I stand up for myself, my rights, my role...that is not playing the victim. What that is called is being ASSERTIVE. Not passive aggresive or aggresive. But people who don't like to be called out for their bad behavior will call you a victim when you assert yourself. That makes them the ones who are passive aggressive.