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I didn't read that under any of them. Just what worked for them. Especially since kids don't come with instruction manuals. We are all just winging it. And pleasantly surprised and proud when our efforts work.
Definitely teach your kids that everything won't be handed to them in life. I agree it's not telling you to make life hard but teach them to do things for themselves.
@Jessykah- no one said that. They're just saying this way of thinking is right... Bitter much?
Prepare the child for the path, not the path for the child.
I agree with Amy. It's hard enough to teach the basics. But throw in social skills and independence, that's a whole different thing! Then, to deal with the kids' parents...
To many people use this as a cop out to be an a$$h*le to their kids, I speak from experience. If you don't know how to be a loving parent, this saying gets twisted to work for you.
I can assure I love my daughter very much and she knows it. She also knows that when she makes a mess she is expected to clean it. She is learning responsibility just like I did growing up and I thank my parents for giving me the tools to succeed in life. Sure when I was younger and immature I hated chores and was jealous of my friends who didn't have to do anything and their parents gave them everything. But now that I see most of them still living at home because they couldn't cope with the harsh reality of life I thank my parents. Its not a cop out for parents who are raising responsible children who will one day contribute to society. I'm sorry if your parents were too harsh but don't blanket all parents whose children have chores under that judgement.
this is quite neat
I don't want to give the impression I don't think kids should do chores or other things that relate to taking personal responsibility. Those are good things! Those also aren't the things that make your kid's life hard, sorry. Things that make your kid's life hard are working part time when your 15 (and in high school) and then having to use that money to buy clothes. Or giving them chores and rather than letting it be a learning experience in self-care, it becomes about earning your keep in your own home. That is giving kids a hard life, why on earth would anyone glorify a saying that can be used to support that kind of behavior?
I guess it really comes down to not taking things to far in either extreme.
I agree Samantha! I'm thankful my parents prepared me!
I totally agree, my kids have chores and responsibilities! Sure they sometimes gripe, but they still get them done!! That is part of life! They know we love them and know why chores are important! !
And we all do!!!!!!
It doesn't have to be about being heartless and cold with your kids. Too many people today don't take responsibility for themselves and their actions - it's always somebody else's fault. Teach your children the value of money, the joy of a job well done, and the importance of accountability. My son is almost 2 and he knows how to apologize when he's made a mistake and how to clean up his toys (as much as a 2-year old can of course). These lessons are taught with love, patience and respect. His life will be much easier if he learns some basic life lessons along the way.
That advice is easier said than done.
How does having a job as a teen make your life harder? I worked as teen (my choice) to have extra money for the things I wanted (not needed as my parents did provide me my needs) and I personally believe it taught me a lot of great life lessons. I was able to work and keep my grades up along with being involved in school activities.
I agree with you Yvette but if I had it to do again it would be different
It's not easier said than done if you're a single parent....or a low income family....or if you, as a child, were brought up to appreciate the things you had because your parents worked their asses of for it and now so do you. Responsibility, respect and accountability.
That's what's wrong with the kids today. This quote right here . Great quote
I actually called my Dad and thanked him for making me work hard. ♥
Too late. Could kick myself now
nothing will ever fall into your lap
Oops! It's too late.
yep! me too, i'm guilty and its way too late for me
So true, I thank my parent' for their iron hand. Now that I'm older I trully appreciate it!!!
Definitely learned this the hard way!! This is such a true statement!!
They will surely thank you when they're older!
I don't think our children would ever say we made their lives easy, but they sure turned out well. We are proud of them.
I totally agree. My brother and I were raised by a single mom. I was always expected to do everything on my own and my younger brother had everything done for him by my mother. I never understood why she babied him so much. But she had a rule for us that once we turned 18 we were on our own. I was fine but this came as a shock to my brother. I've had to help him since, i'm not babying him but he wouldn't be able to make it without someone to teach him how to do everything. He called me a week ago asking how to do the laundry. He calls all the time for stuff like that -_-
It's so hard not to try and make the lives of the ones you love as easy as they can possibly be but it IS best for them.... I need to really work on that.
Bravo. We need to remember that we are raising citizens of character that will be independent thinkers and workers one day! Think big picture. Character is so important.
So very true!
Amen! I think we're all a little guilty though. Lol
I'll tell you a true story. My place of work hired a young kid. His mother worked else where in the building. The young kid had a form of dyslexia. The mother made his life so easy for him because of it, that when he started working for us, he couldn't run a till. The most awful thing that I witnessed was when he was asked to vacuum. He didn't release the vacuum to the floor, he had it up in the hair and vacuumed the whole store. I nicely showed him how to vacuum and he said "ohh, I did the whole store my way, should I re do it?" It was very sad. How does a 19 year old not know how to operate a vacuum? Because he never had too.
I train new hires at my job and I can usually tell whch ones have had parents that care enough to make their lives "hard" - they are the ones that excel and take pride in their work, They are the ones that can actually do their job without being told step by step how to do even the most minor tasks. They are the ones that last longer than a few weeks. I'm glad my parents raised me the "hard" way, glad I did the same for my kids and glad my kids are now raising my grandkids the same way...
I use to be a Shift Manager for a fast food place. I spent 15 years around teenagers who that this was their first job. I had some really good kids who knew how to do what was expected of them. However, I had kids that called me "bitch" and walk out, I had to send one boy home cuz he "wasn't gonna do it". His MOTHER came to talk to me about why I was singling out her son!!!! If i didnt do somethin' in my house, you got your ass beat and ended up having to do it anyway!!!! So you have to learn the first time. Spare the rod, spoil the child. Kids today have NO idea. I've tried to let my son know, life is hard only you can work to make it easier...!
Raised by a single father who taught me how to man up.
AMEN! Firm believer in teaching kids the value of money and how to be independent
I am so guilty of this
Thats why I believe in chores and the chanclà. Lol.