Change begins once selfishness ends. "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others." Philippians 2:3-4
What hurts as much is when you realize your narcissist never loved or wanted you to begin with. You were running the race the whole time all on your own the entire time. One day you wake up and have no idea of who you are, what you need or what you want any more. So fuck you for doing that.