Or, if you lack patience as I do, go pursue it, wrangle it, tangle it, and mangle it until it submits to your will and when its all said and done, it is the way you wanted it. Then you stand back and admire it, share it, present it, and fine tune it until the next challange presents iteslf. Repeat, repeat, repeat.
There are times: To hold open a door. To surrender your seat. To thank someone, in writing. To let bygones be gone. To remember your parents. To listen with care. To surprise with a gift. To mind your table manners. To honor tradition. To give voice to your heart.
A confident woman makes for a woman that a man can easily fall in love with.