I tell all my patients this at physical therapy! Homemade Ice packs: 1 part rubbing alcohol to 3 parts water, gets really cold, but never hardens so you can manipulate it. every athlete (or mom) should pin this!
My ex was a deadbeat. But I never said that to my daughter. I told her he had problems but he was a good man who loved her and would be with her and care for her if he could. She had a pic of him at her bedside her entire life. She grew up feeling loved by two worthy parents because my daughter deserved that!