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Yes to being positive, but this is just life very often. Things don't work out and at times it may even seem as if everything's set up against you. I don't believe in destiny or that "everything happens for a reason". It's a comforting thought that on some level everything makes sense, but what if the world and existence is simply absurd at times. Not everything has to make sense or work out all the time. That's okay. In fact it makes our lives more exciting & let's us appreciate the good times
It's tough living with paradox. There will always be some conflicting voices inside of us drawing us in different directions. Coaching can help to create the roght balance or e.g. enjoy your work more but some of the fundamental existential conflicts will always remain. Try to embrace them as the stuff that makes you human and (on further reflection) may just be the sort of thing that make life "exciting".
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Most of us underestimate what's possible, what we can achieve once we put our mind to something, fully commit and persevere through the speed bumps, challenges and failing-our-way-to-success sort of obstacles. Ingrained in existential thought is the idea that we are ultimately free to do whatever we want as long as we accept the risks and consequences. All that's holding us back is fear & anxiety. We just love being comfortable and saty with what we know. So we stay where we are. It's a choice!
Why comfort will ruin your life | Bill Eckstrom | TEDxUniversityofNevada
"Growth can only occur in a state of discomfort." Bill Eckstrom's message lies at the heart of positive existential coaching. If you want to change and achieve some great results you better start seeing the value in anxiety and discomfort. Too many people try to grow fast and live comfortably at the same time. It's impossible! Rewarding as it may feel afterwards, it takes some courage to get there. Great talk and powerful story. If you want to grow in this way, visit www.existential.coach
"Sadness is poetic. We are lucky to live sad moments." Louis CK
Louis CK with a powerful example of what I mean when I talk positive existentialism. Stop trying to avoid all the shit that life throws at you. Stop trying to suppress everything that feels "bad". It'll always come back, usually stronger than before. Instead start embracing these feelings as part of being human. If you never felt sad, you wouldn't be able to appreciate happiness. There's a spectrum of what we're going through in life and we can't have one without the other. #ThisIsExistential
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You're never too old to learn something new. But most of us are so full of limiting beliefs that we don't even consider trying. Yes it takes courage. Yes it may be harder. Yes there are other things you need to juggle or something you would have to let go in exchange. But it's your choice. A coach will support you on that journey - big or small
Wellbeing Workshops - Yannick Jacob - Existential Coaching and Mediation
"Intelligence plus character,that is the true goal of education" said Martin Luther King. However, most schools leave the latter to chance and see the former as fixed. But we know now how to build character, foster resilience and help children not just to be happy, but to grow into happy adults and make their own informed choices of how they want to approach the future. I think it's time we had personal & social development as an individual school subject. We got a 7 year curriculum. Talk to me!
Learn to embrace uncertainty. It's an inevitable part of life. We tend to wait until we are completely sure that this or that decision is the right one. Fact is that we can never know. Especially when it comes to big life decisions such as jobs or relationships. Nobody can know for sure. But that's what makes life exciting. If it were certain, we'd be bored! Explore the world with Existential Coaching
Sometimes the 1st step is the hardest. Sometimes we can't quite see where it'll lead us. Sometimes we can't even see how on earth we would make a start. All we see is the people who are already up there and running and it seems like they've burned the bridges, that the way they took is no longer available for us. I say go a bit closer, walk around, look behind you, explore! If you know where you're going, there's usually a way. YOUR way. A much better way (you will say in hindsight).
We are paradoxical beings with often conflicting wants and needs. Existential thinkers have pointed out the core dilemmas all human beings face as a result of merely being alive in a world with others. Navigating through life and choosing which ones are the right choices never being truly able to know what's right &wrong, that's hard. But it also makes us feel alive! Learn to not just tolerate, but EMBRACE the anxiety, the EXCITEMENT that comes with living a full life with existential coaching.
Alan Watts & David Lindberg - Why Your Life Is Not A Journey
Alan Watts can speak for himself. But I want to add that his philosophy and thoughts regularly emerge when I coach people. Particularly when clients grapple with where to go in life, how much they focus on outcomes and results as compared to enjoying the process and living in the moment (talking about mindsets and mindfulness). One of the most important balances we need to create and ultimately choose in life (incl the consequences) is between living in the moment and planning for the future.
Language is powerful and can really help us put things into perspective. Feeling anxious, nervous, worried? You're excited! You're feeling alive, you clearly care about things that are important to you, otherwise you wouldn't give a shit. If you feel "bad", it means you care. And if you care, it means your life has meaning. Existential Coaching helps you to put things into perspective and learn to embrace what you used to avoid.
Life is full of joy, wonder and excitement. But also full of challenges, adversities, curved balls and lemons. Sometimes we'll encounter the metaphorical kidney stone and it just hurts. These things pass. They pass quicker if we have built resilience (a skill to be learned and a defense ring we can develop) but they tend to take time and some painful pushing. Learn more through Positive Existential Coaching
People tend to avoid conflict, in some cultures more than in others. Once we realise that some degree of conflict is inevitable (since we all have different values, beliefs, world views) we can start to see that not only is conflict an opportunity to grow, it tends to sit with us if we just avoid it and then surfaces in other ways. We all know that boundaries are important to set for children; why do we not see how important it is to set them for ourselves as well?
I used to hate this feeling when a story finishes without proper closure or a happy ending. Now I really appreciate it because the content tends to stay with me longer, there a richer afterthoughts and it stimulates me a lot more. Not what I prefer to wind down as mild entertainment but so much richer. it's significant that many people hate to sit in this kind of uncertainty. We tend to prefer comfort and closure when in fact, life isn't like that most of the time.
Avoiding pain = avoiding life. I could go on&on about how many people nowadays seem to strive for a life of comfort with as little "negative" feelings as possible. Every emotion teaches us something, every moment is precious. If we try to resist change for too long (even when things are good) we tend to get depressed. This is one of the paradoxes of existence: we need change, but we want life to stay as it is when it feels good. Learn how face life courageously with Positive Existential Coaching
Ask an existential philosopher and they will tell you that we are thrown into a world and exist towards our (body's) death. Everything else is uncertain. In between we're trying to make sense of our existence. Many of the answers to life's big questions (if there are any answers that is) we will never know. Kierkegaard (btw a believer in God) suggested that we need to bridge this uncertainty with a leap of faith (not necessarily religious faith, but beliving in something wedon't have answers to)
There might indeed be a god, divine masterplan, destiny or generally a reason for everything that happens. But there might not be and that's a real possibility. I believe that we have free will and that our choices make a difference. I believe we make our own rules and that we have the freedom to walk through life the way we want to. People are quick to make sense of things, even though some things might just be random or beyond what we are able to understand. Learn to embrace uncertainty.
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"Happiness" has many facets. It means different things to different people. For some it's hedonistic, for others it's about having a sense of meaning and purpose. Science distinguishes between pillars such as positive relationships, engagement, achievement, a sense of personal growth, self acceptance, meaning & purpose, positive emotions and having the skills to deal with whatever environment you're in (competence). What is happiness to you? Find out through Positive-Existential Coaching
WHAT TO DO AFTER COLLEGE
What should I do with my life? Every year millions of students ask themselves this questions. Gary Vaynerchuk's message is so full of existential themes, so positive, so full of life. A masterful and down-to-earth illustration of the paradox of opportunity and freedom. It's fucking scary to be courageous and grab life by the balls. Those buzzing with energy right now hungry to make shit happen, please go out and get a coach!!! It'll pay you back 100 times over, I can almost guarantee that.