See funny thing is I can do what I want. When he makes an effort then I will make the choice. He wants to man up and be a REAL.dad he knows what he needs to . But honestly this isn't ur battle. This is between me my kids and their dad.
One of my all TIME pet peeves are people who always THROW UP in your face what they did for you. SO! If you didn't want to do it you shouldn't have. Period. But never forget those who helped you when they didn't have to.