Not always so great to notice every little thing but we can't help it! A super INFJ like me sometimes has to avert her eyes. Some things are better left unsaid (and you don't have to say it for the INFJ to hear it).
Haha how about start with Tea. Also can we have (or attempt to have) a classy dinner party with wine instead of hard liquor. Or maybe just try and start with wine and move on to alcohol less classy and more fitting to our personalities?