all our interactions with others do one of two things, and never both: our behavior either makes others more comfortable with us, or less. more personally validated, or less. if we think about which we're doing, no one's reaction will ever be a surprise.
Ain't nobody tells you what to do, no one has the damn right to say you have to do something a particular way just because. Not any person I know, has any right whatsoever to tell you how to live your life. Don't let anyone ever EVER say that ever