you need to ignore what everyone else is doing and start achieving. Your're life is all about breaking your own limits and outgrowing yourself to live "your" best life! You're not in a competition with anyone, so plan to outdo your past, not other people.
Its incredibly difficult when you realise that the person who is supposed to love you is actually the same person that is preventing you from loving yourself. Its taken a long time, but I can now see I did not and do not deserve to be put through the pain of his abuse. I am worth more. RH