Positive reinforcement - Put a cotton ball, marble, pom-pom, etc. in every time you catch your child being good. Do something special when it's full. This is exactly what I need instead of focusing on the bad.
Great idea for teaching children the difference between saying thoughts and thinking thoughts. First the kids get to squeeze out a travel size tube of toothpaste and make a mess. Then have them try to put the toothpaste back in the tube. They will of course find it impossible to do and it is a great way to illustrate that we can't take back words that are hurtful to others. Would make a great FHE!