Don't force anything no matter what it is.. Don't be attached let things go or you will be controlled and limited in the possibilities...just let it naturally evolve. Let yourself to go with the flow and do not try and control it. Don't narrow your focus.
"If you try to find a good reason not to say something you have to say, that you feel like saying or in need of saying, coming into what you want to say to somebody, sort of like moving you towards it, you need to have a pretty good reason for not saying it. Why wouldn't you?" 'Girls-Talk'