Patriarchy isn't referring to men, it's referring to a collective mentality that men are supposed to act a certain way, enforce women to act a certain way, and holds the belief that men are above women, while degrading both women and men who don't meet the mentality's standards.
Going to be real with some of my followers right now. Unless you are reclaiming slurs that are DIRECTED right at your portion of the trans community, or have been used at you before, I don't want to see it. Ever. I don't want to see slurs used in photo descriptions unless they are at request of the trans person in question that is in the photo.
Since my father maybe cried 4 times in front of me, I'm ill equipped to deal with men crying. Thus, my husband the ultimate softie, is quiet the learning curve. and one if our sons is just like him. it breaks my heart :(