If both parents truly support shared parenting the effort towards making that happen would be equal. Bashing the other parent or fearing the kids might like it there too much is not an equal effort. Doing what is best for the child is an equal effort.
Live in positive and optimistic faith in all things. I actually like Respect, Reside, Rest better. Respect your past. Reside in the dwelling of the beauty and wonder of the present. Rest in the confidence of the things God is setting up for your future.