The real you. The authentic, sober you. Not the one that needs a vice to hide behind. Accept yourself totally and completely for who you are, and where you are. Then get to work on becoming a better you each and everyday.
Wish I'd seen this when my kids were younger and I heard this all the time. So to @terrareary, @tiffanyvranes, @maggiegardner, and all you ladies that have a handful of little ones. Now you have a response.