Quote on borderline: I keep so much pain inside myself. I grasp my anger and loneliness and hold it in my chest. It has changed me into something I never meant to be. It has transformed me into a person I do not recognize. But I don’t know how to let it go. -S.J.B. www.HealthyPlace.com
Do not let your relationship turn into one person only being dominant/submissive-share each role, it will turn into an unhealthy relationship otherwise. Use "I see it differently" in difficult relationships.
"I was haunted by monsters from my past, so I became the monster I feared the most so the monster wouldn't overtake me." "And what was that monster? What have you become?" "Darkness, anger, and fear itself. That is what I am now." "Always refer to people as *who*, not what, Ira. Don't tell me you've forgotten." "