This chart is good information about meltdowns. *** But please remember that adults with ASD have "meltdowns" too, although they are very different***. As an adult it's not possible to throw a tantrum so the issues shown on the diagram manifest differently. (And differently in different ASD adults.) What's needed is acceptance and helping that person decompress and destress before a meltdown happens. -- http://www.theautismdad.com
The problem is... we can either let that strong empathy overwhelm us, or we can do our best to tune it out so it doesn't. This, I believe, is the source of the myth. People only notice it when we work to tone the empathy down to survive.