Abandonment creates an emotional crisis of such intensity and duration that it mimics a full blown borderline episode. This has caused many a therapist to diagnose borderline personality disorder (BPD) in many a client in the throes of a painful separation. The emotional volcano of abandonment is often misunderstood by the clinician as evidence of serious psychiatric disorder.
It isn't a willingness to abandon them during inclimate weather for a tryst that shouldn't be occurring. It isn't being jealous of them or the time they spend with the other parent and it isn't holding the children hostage to get what you want out of the other parent. They are living, breathing, feeling human beings who once exposed to trauma will be affected for the rest of their lives. 2 words for selfish, narcissistic, manipulative parents: GROW UP.
After my husband of 14 years abandoned us, we ended up in a homeless shelter. It was a rough and scary time, but we all came out on top. We're actually better off now in all capacities of the word than when he was still around. Here's our journey and how you can help a child through a loss or abandonment
Please head to my blog to check out full article regarding this post. Link in bio! PREVIEW: Fear of abandonment stems not so much from the fear of people leaving you as it does from the belief that people leaving you would be your fault. That there is something wrong with you that makes people leave.That is the real fear the real trigger the real issue behind fears of abandonment. It's a complete lie but it makes total sense. This makes sense because if someone leaves you as a child you…