Love is about caring about another person as much as caring about yourself! If you'd rather the extreme, then that's not love... Love comes with BALANCE...between loving what you'd rather and what someone else would rather.
When my dog died our whole family was so sad. A couple days later a package arrived. It had a letter about how my dog was doing, and a book called " All Dogs Go To Heaven". There was no name or stamp on the package just a name signed on the letter, God.