One of the biggest things I struggle to rationalize. I feel like I need to have a reason to go off grid when I need to, or even not to text back right then, besides not wanting to. No one can know me better than me, but hiding bits of myself and being dishonest doesn't help. I've been trying to be better about it this year and I'm just not. I will continue to work on it.
Similar to self-harming, traumatized persons may create "a problem" for themselves in order to avoid their real anxiety or trauma. Facing their real issues may be too difficult for them, so they "create" a kind of "artificial" problem (in their case, hoarding) and prefer to battle with it rather than determine, face, or do something about their real anxieties.