Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” So we can confidently say, “The Lord is my helper; I will not fear; what can man do to me?” Heb. 13:5-6 ESV http://bible.com/59/heb.13.5-6.ESV
You were born to dance to the beat of your own heart; to roam without cages; with the innocence of a child, and the free spirit of untamed horses; I hope you laugh without stopping, live with abandon, and love like that's all there is; stay wild, my wild, wild child.
It isn't a willingness to abandon them during inclimate weather for a tryst that shouldn't be occurring. It isn't being jealous of them or the time they spend with the other parent and it isn't holding the children hostage to get what you want out of the other parent. They are living, breathing, feeling human beings who once exposed to trauma will be affected for the rest of their lives. 2 words for selfish, narcissistic, manipulative parents: GROW UP.