Oh how I hate mind games…. the aggression, the silent treatment, or the “poor me” people of the world… if you have something to say then please say it…. if you did something wrong, then accept the blame… don’t turn it around to anyone else… Karen Kostyla
Red Flag #19. Suddenly and completely bored by you. Gives you the silent treatment and becomes very annoyed that you seem to be interested in continuing the passionate relationship that they created. You are now a chore to them.
The silent treatment can be so destructive to relationships that John Gottman included it as one of the four horsemen of the apocalypse in relationships. In other words, it is a relationship buster. While some may use the silent treatment prior to learning more effective communication skills, narcissistic manipulators often repeatedly use it to control, punish, test boundaries, avoid accountability and avoid even discussing unpleasant issues.