Cognitive Dissonance | "Sometimes people hold a core belief that is very strong. When they are presented with evidence that works against that belief, the new evidence cannot be accepted. It would create a feeling that is extremely uncomfortable, called cognitive dissonance. And because it is so important to protect the core belief, they will rationalize, ignore and even deny anything that doesn't fit in with the core belief." --Frantz Fanon
It's a scary thing to watch when this happens to a loved one or friend. You feel helpless in how to help them. If you say anything, the abusive controlling person will even try to turn them against you!