Characterize people by their actions and you will never be fooled by their words. PP: People always have the capacity to "say what you want to hear" but true colors are in actions and sometimes lack of actions.
The truth hurts. A narcissist paints a picture of themselves as being the victim or innocent in all aspects. They will be offended by the truth. But what is done in the dark will come to light. Time has a way of showing people's true colors.
People show their true colors, unintentionally. Pay attention.