A-fucking-men. No I don't think you understand..listen closely. IF YOU ARE NOT HAPPY WITH THE RELATIONSHIP YOU ARE IN THEN DO. NOT. BE. IN. THAT. RELATIONSHIP. ANYMORE. I have never understood the concept of having to lie and cheat and hurt not only your spouse but also often times the people you cheat with just because you don't really love them...if you don't love them, you shouldn't be in that relationship. If you are unhappy you shouldn't be in that relationship. Period.