Unsolicited advice, coercing, controlling, labeling, judging, and meddling are just a few versions of violence that deeply affect us. “These versions of violence,” Morissette writes, “sometimes subtle, sometimes clear. And the ones that go unnoticed, still leave their mark once disappeared.”
We're all prone to getting unsolicited advice from friends, family, or strangers at times. People give advice for many reasons, some of which are well-intentioned, others less so. It can be confusing knowing what to do with all the types of unsolicited advice that we encounter, so it helps to examine where the words might be coming from. Here are some common reasons people are compelled to give unsolicited advice.