there is no "too early" when it comes to talking to our boys in an age-appropriate way about puberty/consent/sexuality...
health, happiness and the pursuit of positive...
"Being there as your kids grow up? That's everything. That's providing."
There is hope in the unknown. In the light that casts its last shadows, for tomorrow we will grow up a little more. Tomorrow we will be better. We will know more about ourselves and the world...
"Our main focus on the curriculum is positive masculinity for the boys, positive empowerment, and actually making them gentlemen on issues to do with the prevention of rape and standing up for the rights of women," said Omondi, dressed in a black T-shirt with NO! emblazoned on the front.
In order to make any sort of real change, we have to do more than hold a few seats for our sons at the table, we must invite them to sit down, to speak, to share... Otherwise, we are drawing an even bigger line in the sand -- separating our sons and daughters with our fear when we should be bringing them together with our hope.
Research shows that relationships and the ability to connect emotionally are key to happiness, health and even career success. Studies also show that toys have the power to influence the way kids see themselves and the world around them. But right now toys that encourage connection and empathy are only marketed to girls -- sending the message to many boys that this kind of play is not for them." -Laura Wider, creator of Wonder Crew
Moms Fighting Gender Bias One Kickstarter at a Time - Toddler Tips & Advice | mom.me
"Both men and women should feel free to be sensitive. Both men and women should feel free to be strong." - Emma Watson, an actress and advocate who my kids know and recognize and are willing to watch speak for thirteen minutes about feminism and gender equality. Awesome.
"But wouldn’t it be productive if this collective outrage, as my colleagues have said, could be channelled to truly hear and address the long-suffering cries for help by so many women? And as they said, do something about it? Like an on-going education of men about what healthy, respectful manhood is all about..." - James Brown, CBS Sports
"This is how we're working to ensure our son does not become someone to fear," should be the conversation, not "where do we pre-order our daughters their date-rape nail polish?"
And that's what makes coming of age stories so magical. We are defined by our youth in a way we will never fully understand. And even when we know better now and learned our lesson and moved on, the rings still exist in our proverbial trunks, crooked and detached, around and around and around...
"Here’s what doesn’t get the headlines: Empathy. Listening to those around you. Even if you don’t like them very much."
In the Hands of Young Men
Watch: Richard Linklater's 'Boyhood' Trailer Captures 12-Year Passage of Time
Curating Change: On Masculinity
"My life is probably a lot different now, but it feels normal on the inside." - James K. Lowe on life as Ella Yelich-O’Connor's (Lorde) BF. I like him.
The ladder of manhood: Jeff Perera at TEDxYorkU 2014 - YouTube
“I feel like a wooden boy, and I’ve always dreamed of feeling what real boys feel.”
It’s dangerous because the men whose self-esteem and self-confidence take a hit during these fleeting moments of “emasculation” don’t just bottle it up inside and allow themselves to whither away (dangerous in its own right, to be sure). No, it’s dangerous because those men, believing they are entitled to feeling masculine and powerful in a world that worships the masculine and powerful, often take out their frustration on the rest of society...