I'm only responsible for what I say, not for what you understand. Although as an author I am responsible for making readers understand--a reader who doesn't understand is an unhappy reader. (And there is some value to leaving some questions unanswered.
This is so true--though I have a hard time with it. When my kids hurt and/or are having a really difficult time with things in life that just kind of "slap them in the face," then I do have a hard time holding it together. and most times I do cry.