"I hate the word Homophobia. It's not a Phobia. You're not scared. You're an Asshole." - Morgan Freeman (ok apparently this isn't an actual quote from Morgan Freeman... still a good quote though, whoever the REAL original source is!
It's very easy to mean well and slip on remembering best ways of bringing respect to otherness. It's a little work for sure. I've slipped several times and am embarrassed to admit that sometimes I still do.