if you can't be kind, be quiet. If only people remember that in the "HEAT" of the moment. When we were young, we were told just about the same thing. "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all"
Not my circus. Not my monkeys. (Polish proverb) Every time you feel yourself getting drawn into other people's nonsense, repeat these words. Great to remember, because I am trying to not get sucked into peoples drama