A hundred years ago Freud described the uncanny as a sensation we feel when the familiar becomes unfamiliar. It seems like this might help explain a common grief experience that has traditionally been hard to label.
People pleasing. We do it to be liked, to fit in, to be accepted. We do it to present an image, make a certain impression. We do it to be needed and for approval. And it's self-sabotage, plain and simple.
Though related, self-acceptance is not the same as self-esteem. Whereas self-esteem refers specifically to how valuable, or worthwhile, we see ourselves, self-acceptance alludes to a far more global affirmation of self.