Ricky Gervais said just be good. Doing good things makes the giver feel good, and it makes the receiver feel good. Don't let a fear of hell, or loss of favor with a jealous god be the driving influence behind your good deeds. I don't think that's healthy.
Self respect comes first -learning to do this with material objects and physical objects....people are not worth my energy who don't respect my happiness what are you doing in my life? If you don't make me happy, make me grow or serve to bring me anything