25 Ways to Communicate Respect, citations to the Bible. My note: no lie, I only made it to #8, after some of the first 4 kinda started ticking me off. Interesting, since I know the tips aren't really preaching subservience, but that's all I see! But I suppose that's what love is, what Jesus did: not subservience but serving, because you want to. And in my book, your partner wants to do the same. And that's a good thing, right? I mean, taking time for your wants/needs is necessary, but if both significant others strive to place the other first, that's a win-win.