Wow. Yes. Speak with words of encouragement, inspiration, love, and gentleness. Listen with sincerity, listen without getting distracted. Really give your time, your attention, and yourself to the person who is talking to you.
Jesus said "Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these." Look not on the outside, but try to see what God sees. Makes me think of Troy.
"When your child is having a meltdown, remember, it's their crisis, not yours. Breathe deeply. Calm yourself. Then use a quiet voice and gentle hands to guide your little one through their crisis. That is living what you want them to learn." 'The Gentle Parent: Positive, Practical, Effective Discipline' by L.R.Knost www.littleheartsbooks.com