passage on love and being real - "Real isn't how you are made - it's a thing that happens to you. It doesn't happen all at once. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off . . But it doesn't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."