Just because you call yourself a good person, doesn't mean your actions are true. Stay within yourself, work hard to earn what you need, appreciate when you get it, teach your children to do more for others than they expect to be done for them.
Active listeners are priceless! Active listening requires: hearing, interpreting, evaluating, and responding. There are few things less attractive than an incessantly yammering, boastful, "me-myself-and-I" rattlebrain -- unless it is one that lies.