You may not able to control every situation and its outcome, but you can control your attitude and how you deal with it.similar to what I say a lot.if you can't change the situation, the only other thing then that you can change is your attitude.
That is so important. Love is never deceitful. It isn't deceitful to your spouse. And it isn't deceitful to your children. If there is deceit in a relationship, it is not true love, rather it is self-serving and selfish for personal gain.