Forgiveness doesn't excuse their behavior. Forgiveness prevents their behavior from destroying your heart. Deciding not to forgive hurts not only the other person but you as well. Not learning to forgive hardens the heart and makes shallow the soul.
In this life we are all just walking up the mountain & we can sing as we climb or we can complain about our sore feet whichever we choose we still gotta do the hike. I decided a long time ago singing made a lot more sense.
(Eti, this door has the no-pink-decoration that you are looking for) Beautiful, inviting front door. Amazing what a nice coat of fresh gloss paint can do to improve curb appeal. Who wouldn't want to walk in and see this home right away?
Words to Live by as I have Learned long ago you CANNOT change another person; it is enough of a struggle to authentically change yourself yet alone trying to change someone else. Focus on being you - that is challenge enough.