Renée K. Nicholson, of the Los Angeles Review, writes: Wedlocked refuses the simplistic, truth-as-fact view of nonfiction. Instead its terrain is emotional and linked to artistic process…In this way, it stretches the confines of the so-called contract with the reader..Sometimes filled with raw sexual ambition, other times quietly sad and contemplative, Ponteri dares memoir to go in a bold direction, with precedence on the intimacy between writer and reader.
Included in the Spring Season (2013) at Hawthorne Books is Jay Ponteri's debut, a memoir, "Wedlocked," design by Adam McIsaac.
"Jay Ponteri is a brave seeker with a capacious and conflicted heart. Equal parts confession, fantasy, meditation and rant, his deeply private memoir is fearless in its exploration of dark and uncomfortable corners in his marriage. These beautifully crafted pages shine a light on loneliness, marriage, fatherhood and how we sustain ourselves in our lives of perfect ordinariness." --Natalie Serber, author of Shout Her Lovely Name
"Many recent books have been written, of course, about sex, marriage, love, men, and women. Very few if any risk the level of intimacy, candor, and rawness that Jay Ponteri's book does. Very few if any behold the husband (in all his agony) with the depth that this book does. Very few if any expose the male psyche with this book's nerve. None that I can think of is smarter about the uses of fantasy. I hugely admire Wedlocked." --David Shields, author of Reality Hunger: A Manifesto
"Ponteri's [Wedlocked] offers the contemporary reader a fresh way to contemplate our country's abiding love-hate relationship with the institution of marriage. We revere it; we chafe against it. We sin in our hearts, and our guilt depends on what the meaning of the word 'is' is. This is a new and nuanced contribution to an enduring debate. I welcome it." --Antonya Nelson, author of Bound
"[Wedlocked is] a beautiful, sticky, bloody, sweaty, feverish book that will be hard for some people to read. Those who do, though, will find that what they have imagined is true: our romantic relationships, or relationships with the lover, with the self, with the other, are as complicated and messy and ecstatic as the human body engaged in them." --Matthew Dickman, author of All American Poem
"In Wedlocked, Jay Ponteri goes into the country of marriage and masculinity in a way that is freshly honest, insightful, and tragic. Wedlocked is a fascinating book that will interest all men and women who struggle in that sticky, lonely terrain between bonding and bondage." --Tony Hoagland, What Narcissism Means to Me, finalist for the National Book Critics Circle Award
Jay Ponteri, author of Wedlocked: A Memoir, out March 15, 2013.
Ponteri's essay "Listen to this" was mentioned as a notable essay in The Best American Essays 2010. It's also included in Wedlocked.
Kevin Sampsell gives Jay Ponteri's Wedlocked 5 stars on Goodreads.