Make up invitations for an argument...let them open and hold them and decide if they would/should attend every argument, etc. Prob solved ways to avoid or "decline" invitation and i.d. better things they could do with their time. Many applications for role play and group play. LOVE!
Showing my true, real self is hard. Bullied, teased, made fun of for who you really were is hard to come from. That's why people put up walls, barriers, masks, to hide behind. They're afraid that people will do it again, just like the people before.