A great reminder: both that we can't give what we ain't got, and that the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Being aware of how God parents US is a crucial first step. We must see ourselves as children of God, and as our kids' enablers in helping them learn who they are in Him- their different temperaments and gifts, etc. can only be truly fulfilled through, with, and in Christ as He loves us all into being. "Growing up" means growing into something (or Someone) big enough in the first place.