By participating in life Charley begins to experience the beauty life has to offer.For example, “I was suddenly very aware of the fact it was me standing up in that tunnel with the wind over my face. Not caring if I saw downtown. Not even thinking about it. Because I was standing in the tunnel. And I was really there. And that was enough to make me feel infinite.” When Holden and Charley apply themselves in their lives, they learn knew things about themselves and actually live.
If someone really wanted you, they'd actually put some effort into trying to get your attention and make sacrifices for you. They wouldn't just tell you that they want you: they'd show you in every little way possible that they want you.