This is pretty much my internal dilemma when engaging with holidays and other social constructs. Or as a previous pinner said: "The worst resolution to the Valentine Prisoner's Dilemma is when YOU decide to not give your partner a present but your PARTNER decides to testify against you in the armed robbery case."
Seriously! Some women act like they're in high school 10 years later. Get over yourself. You're not making me feel uncomfortable. You're only getting yourself worked up over something you no longer have control over. Your drama is not welcome in my life.