This can be a hard truth to swallow but it's true and truth is liberating. It is also very true that we all express love in different ways. Maybe you are just looking for it in your love language when you should try to seek theirs. They might be trying to show you in their own way. Open your eyes.
Yeap. What it comes down to is your actions in the end. As the saying goes actions speak louder than words. We can make careful plans if needed to to end relationships we do not wish to stay in. Start making plans for the life you want to have after that person is no longer a part of your life. This will make you stronger. Feel the fear, but do it anyway--carefully and with the help of others. If you give up, nothing will change.