let it go- "get over it!" or "give it to god" or more eloquently - "...grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference." If you can do that, life is soooo much better.
its starts from you, so believe what I know... you are amazing! After all I know you best and I see what you may not, so until you see it too, let me give you the words of encouragement you need, the hand to hold, and the shoulder to lean on! I love you both!