This stands true for me since i've shut down from people, i feel more confident without their negative vibes bringing me down. I was tired of being excluded, and looked down on all while being friendly, polite, & supportive. I'm much more confident now. Self respect has taken away the insecurities. I'm also getting a very sharp intuition as i get older that i listen very closely to.
an then im like you're being toooo loud shut up!!! but yes this is how it is. people are all like you didnt get your coffee did you. but most of the time i do i just wanna be quiet. why is it such a big deal for a loud person to be quiet sometimes?