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Forgiveness. If you are angry, sin not. A lot of the times, we are chastised for anger, or for being uncharitable to others. Fair enough; that chastisement is deserved. But do we think enough about how holding onto anger and lack of charity hurts US by weighing down our souls? Think of forgiveness in terms of taking care of YOURSELF, too.
THIS is a debilitating side effect of living with a narcissist for 30 years. You never know what they are scheming or when they will deceive you next... but you know they have a hidden agenda and it's coming again and again. The only way to protect yourself is to be on guard every minute. It is exhausting and creates paranoia... and they love that they have that power over you. A very good reason to quit this bullshit.