Everyone wants to be heard, and the same applies to alters. For years they have carried the secrets of what was done to them. They were not permitted to A Step On The Road To Healing tell because it was not safe. As we move away from the abuse, and to a place where we feel safer, the alters feel safer too. They begin to want to tell their side of the story.
Our words have such an effect on each other. Just saying one nice thing to someone can completely alter their views on the day and world, and could even save a life. Try saying something nice anytime it comes into your mind. Make kindness a habitual lifestyle, not a chore!